Wellbeing of Parents

Parents struggling with their children’s violence are often confused and isolated. It can be hard to find ways to keep everyone safe including the child whose behaviour is posing the risk to positive family relationships and safety. It can be difficult to know how to make things better.

You are not alone!

• 77% of all parent victims were female
• 87% of all perpetrators were male
• 66% of cases involved son to mother (APV key findings for Youth Justice Service, September 2013)
• Child violence is not just against parents. Many children are also violent to their siblings.
• Child violence exists across all sections of society irrespective of gender, race, culture, nationality, religion, sexuality, disability, age, class, or educational level.

Violence is not the same as anger. Anger is an emotion and we can help children find safe outlets for that; violence is a sign that things are more serious and can lead to parents feeling controlled by their children. Child violence is any behaviour used by a child in the family which results in a parent – or sibling – feeling controlled, threatened or coerced.

In the documents below you will find booklets about Child to Adult and Adolescent to Adult violence.

CEDAH is a 24-hour point of contact for anyone experiencing domestic abuse or anyone concerned for others. 

CEDAH provides information, a helpline and onward referral for any family member - adults who are harmed and those who are hurting others as well as children and young people. People are assessed according to risk and need and the right combination of services put in place for the whole family.

This is a central telephone, text and email service covering the whole of Cheshire East. People who want or need help are referred to Council or commissioned services in the community.

IN AN EMERGENCY DIAL 999

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Mobile: (text number only) 07777 941464

Telephone: 0300 123 5101 or 999 in an emergency

Email: cedah@cheshireeast.gov.uk   Further information is here.

Ask for Ani

Domestic abuse victims can now ‘Ask for Ani’ in every Boots store in the UK as part of a new codeword scheme. Men, women and children can ask for the fictional staff member as a discreet plea for help without tipping off an abuser. A trained pharmacy worker will then offer a private space to find out if the victim needs to speak to police, support services or helplines.

The name Ani is in fact the acronym ANI - which stands for Action Needed Immediately.

Refuge

Help is available if you're experiencing domestic abuse - call Refuge's National Domestic Abuse Helpline on 0808 2000 247. You can also download the Brightsky app.

Adult Safeguarding - out of hours: 03001235010 or 03001235022

Housing options/homelessness team: 03001235017 or 0300123505

National Centre for Domestic Violence: 0800 970 2070

Rape and Sexual Abuse Support Centre: 01260 697900

Samaritans: 01270 216666

You can find support for your mental health here.

If your mental or emotional state quickly gets worse or deteriorates, this can be called a ‘mental health crisis’. In this situation, it is important to get help quickly.

Please call 0300 303 3972 and our dedicated local staff will support you to access the help you need. The phone line is open 24 hours a day, seven days a week and is open to people of all ages – including children and young people.

If you call NHS111 regarding your mental health you may have to wait longer for help and will be re-directed to this local service – so call 0300 303 3972.

You should still call 999 or go to A&E if you have an immediate, life-threatening emergency requiring mental or physical health assistance.

If you feel that you do not require urgent help, but you would like more information and resources about anxiety, low mood, and the current situation, please refer to our Advice about wellbeing at home page or our dedicated website for children and young people MyMind.org.uk.

Cheshire East Council’s Homechoice and Prevention Team have staff available to deal with homelessness prevention; the officers can give advice to families on a variety of issues e.g. concerns relating to rent and mortgage arrears, debt and the fear of losing their home. Early intervention is something they encourage. They have leaflets and a website. For a referral into appropriate advice and support
Phone: 0300 123 5017
Email: cheshirehomechoice@cheshireeast.gov.uk

My CWA - Building a community where adults and children can live free from the fear of domestic abuse

Central Cheshire Buddy Scheme - Supporting disabled children to gain new experiences, be active, meet friends & to be part of their community.

Ruby's Fund - An inclusive sensory centre and social café for children and young people with additional needs and disabilities.

Friends for Leisure - Because everyone needs a friend. Helping disabled children and young people in Cheshire East enjoy friendship and leisure.

Mid-Cheshire Riding for the Disabled - The charity has been providing riding opportunities for the disabled since the 1970s, and today it is a thriving group that aims to provide therapy and fun to people with disabilities.

South Cheshire CLASP - Supporting those in the local community who are affected by the difficulties associated with parenting alone.

Speak to someone if you need support such as your family, friends, Midwife, GP or Health Visitor.

ICONICON is a website for new parents with advice for when babies cry.

I – Infant crying is normal

C –Comforting methods can help

O – It’s OK to walk away

N – Never, ever shake a baby

Baby Sleep
In the documents below you can find out advice for helping babies to sleep safely.